Divorce and dating for men
When it comes to family, and children, let your boyfriend decide when and how interactions will occur.
Dating a guy who is going through a divorce can be a different type of relationship that not all women are equipped to deal with.
Having no agenda automatically makes dating more fun for divorced men.– It’s much easier to impress younger women.
Divorced men in their 40’s, 50’s or 60’s typically have enough money to take their young partners to amazing places they (the girls) have never been to, buy them gifts they never dreamt of getting and solve their problems (which are usually silly ones) with great maturity.
Let me start with some statistics: Number of divorced guys I have probably dated since my divorce: 7 Number of divorced guys I am friends with: 45 Number of divorced guys I have met in my life: hundreds. This same thing applies to a woman in that situation, by the way. I had single moms, divorced women with no kids and even some who've never had kids or been married. I'm a successful guy, I'm financially stable, I'm over 6 feet tall, a fitness trainer, and can cook.
I’m sharing these numbers because I truly feel like I have a pretty good sense of the divorced guy, some common traits, and how I think he feels. I have talked to many, many men whose spouses cheated and then left them for another man. Now, let me explain how I think many women view a divorced man whose wife left him. But none of that mattered once I mentioned I had kids, but they lived with their mom.
Even worse, she left for another man, so I’m sure that does a number on a man’s self-image. Being a divorced dad without full custody was proven to be a HUGE turn off.
This is important and he will be talking about it, so listen with a keen intensity when he does.
This emotional vulnerability drives a lot of guys to latch on to the first person they can find to avoid being alone, regardless of whether the person is truly a good match for a long-term relationship.
Finally, divorce is a very traumatic and life-changing experience.
Divorce can be a shock to the system to go from having a spouse — even one who hasn’t really been there for you — to truly being alone.
This emotionally fragile state can make for an extremely difficult adjustment, which leads many recent divorcees to (unhealthily) jump right into another relationship, commonly referred to as a rebound. It’s a fairly common attitude that if you want to get over someone who left you feeling hurt, you go out and find someone new to replace them.